As they enter midlife, women may lose touch with their enthusiasm for life. They might also have dreams they still want to fulfil. This series of interviews with authors aged 50+ aims to inspire these women to make their next years their best years!

Q: Where do you hail from?

I was born in Lyndhurst in Hampshire, and I have spent most of my life in Cornwall, the last 44 years near Padstow.

Q: What one thing do you like most about where you live?

Being a short drive from the dramatic cliffs and wonderful beaches where I love to walk.

Q: List no more than 5 words to describe yourself.

Quiet, caring, dedicated, passionate, insightful (the first ones that came to mind!)

Q: At what age did you start writing?

As soon as I could write, I loved reading and writing my own stories. More seriously, in my forties, after my cancer diagnosis.

Q: What is the title of your book and what inspired you to write it?

“The Powerful Voice of the Quiet Ones – Reflections on an introvert’s life.” Inspired by my own journey through ‘daring to blossom’ (the name of my coaching business), and of stepping into my own power.

Q: What influenced you to write about life and motivation?

Originally it was that wakeup call, cancer. More recently my own experiences as an older woman, plus many conversations with friends and with clients.

Q: How do you wish to inspire others with your writing?

To help them think: “Yes, I have a message, I can be heard, I have a unique gift to offer to the world.”

Q: Do you feel your writing nature changed after you turned 50? If so, how?

Interesting question: I think I have become more and more ‘brave’ about speaking out, in my own voice. One of the readers of my first coaching book (“Dare to Blossom: Coaching and Creativity”) challenged me by saying it was great, but that I was ‘hiding behind the coaching’. I hope I am emerging more and more now.

Q: What impact do you think your book(s) will have on women aged above 50?

I know people who have already said that the books have encouraged them to go out and be more of themselves, to blossom. I hope this latest one will have a similar impact. As well as memories of my life growing up beginning with being a ‘quiet little girl’, I include examples of how I have found visualisation and meditation hugely powerful.

Q: How do you motivate yourself at age 50+?

By having a big support network of friends (mostly but not all of whom are women over 50 themselves).

Q: Do you believe you are living the life you have always wanted?

Yes.

Q: How has your writing affected your quality of life?

Greatly; it helps me ‘hear myself think’, to process, to feel safe sharing my thoughts in my private journal (which I began the day I was diagnosed with cancer), and then to dare to step out and share my experiences. Sharing has brought me so many gifts.

Q: Which book or author has most helped you change your life at the age of 50+?

My goodness, there are so many! How can I choose one? I think I will say Julia Cameron, firstly “The Artist’s Way”, which I probably read before I was 50, and then “The Right to Write” and many others.

Q: What piece of advice do you have for other women over the age of 50 that could help them live the rest of their lives in the best way possible?

Be yourself, start with small steps and keep going. And change direction if you need, or want, to.

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Q: Please share an inspiring or motivational excerpt from your current book?

The power I wish to step into, the path I have chosen to follow, is of power within. Power within is different. It chooses to start inside. To examine the heart. To connect with the good within each of us. We are all different. Yet, we each desire the same basic necessities: food, shelter, warmth, love. We each have the capacity to give and receive love if it is not frightened or frozen out of us. And even then, there is the seed, the capacity there to love. It may need the most tender and hands-off nurturing to dare to even think about breaking out from the tight bud — to dare to blossom may be a step too far at the beginning.

When the power within does emerge, and is used in the collaborative, feminine way, it supports others: together we rise. Male or female, or however we may see ourselves, this approach brings a balance of yin and yang, feminine and masculine, reflection and action, allowing the best of each to shine forth together.

The power that I invite you step into, gently and with ease and grace, is a quiet power. A power that can move mountains and change the world, one small step at a time. A practical power that helps us be true to ourselves and to operate from that place — at work, in our businesses, in relationships of all sorts. [Ref: The Powerful Voice of the Quiet Ones” pp15-16]

Q: What can we expect from you in the future?

Well, my personal journey in writing this book is taking me down a different path than I expected in 2020. I find I need to rewrite the online programmes I had planned for this year, to use the energy that has been generated through all the interest in the book. So, I am not sure yet – keep in touch to find out! I will be building on all the things that have brought me to this point: “The Dare to Blossom Rediscovery Cards”, and my coaching process, “The Compass Rose”, combined with the “Magic Carpet Ride Guided Visualisations”. And I will be returning to writing the book taking people through that process, delayed when this new little book demanded to be published first.

Q: How can we contact you or find out more about your books?

My website is the best place to start. The direct link for all my books is as follows. There is a contact link on the website, or people can simply email on mary@daretoblossom.co.uk I also have an active Facebook community, with a group where I share a card of the day: Dare to Blossom into Joy And another group specifically for this latest book.

 

This series of Q and A with female authors aged 50 and above, helps us understand how they use their books to help change lives and motivate other women above 50 to live a life they love. If you, or someone you know, would like to participate, please contact me.